“We spend our lives on the run: We get up by the clock, eat and sleep by the clock, get up again, go to work – and then we retire. And what do they give us? …A clock!” Dave Allen
Why do we do everything so quickly? Why do we always rush? Think of the person who overtakes you in a mad rush, obviously stressed and upset, and what happens a few seconds later you draw up behind him at a roundabout or traffic lights. What has he gained? Nothing! What has he risked? Maybe his life if he overtook dangerously, certainly increased blood pressure and pumping heart…
If you read again what Dave Allen says – we do everything by the clock, we put ourselves under pressure to have a project finished by a certain time, to achieve a goal by a certain month or year. We are so fixated on the deadline and putting ourselves under stress to make absolutely sure we get there that we never actually think about, let alone enjoy, what we are doing on the way. If it is a project at work there is a certain satisfaction to meeting a deadline and having delivered something valuable and worthwhile – yes I fully understand that, but do you think about what part of it you enjoy doing, while you are doing it?
If we talk about our life goals and objectives that we are rushing to achieve, to complete, what happens when we get there? For most people it is a big, empty question mark! They have what they were aiming for, but once they get it they feel a little lost, not quite sure what to do next.
We are putting ourselves under unnecessary stress with all these targets, deadlines, time limits – but as it is an ingrained habit, it is almost automatic for us to react that way.
What if we removed the stress and the clock from our lives? How amazing it would be if we started to enjoy what we do, instead of panic about finishing it! So, how can you get off this hamster wheel?
Well, the best way is by little steps… you can’t break a lifelong habit cold turkey.
1. Start by breaking things down into what you are doing this month, this week and today.
2. Live in today! Tomorrow is for thinking about tomorrow… OK, occasionally you have to look into the future to get the big picture – but keep that to the minimum and allocate a specific part of the day to do that. STOP linking every action to a clock, a date or a deadline…
3. For each project instead of thinking about achieving the goal, and meeting the deadline, think about what you like about it, what parts you enjoy doing, the energy and good sensations of the action.
4. Then, while you are working on it, be in the moment, ‘feel’ the enjoyment, the pleasure. Be happy with yourself for doing something you enjoy, say to yourself, “this is fun, this is nice, I really enjoy doing this”.
Here is an example, I am currently creating a new course/programme for my business. I am at the brand image stage so last night I was talking to my son-in-law, Josh, a really ace graphic designer, instead of thinking “OMG how long will it take, when will it be ready, there are so many things to do to reach the deadline”; as we talked colours, logos, images etc I was aware of how much I was really enjoying the conversation, and how nice it was to be aware that I was enjoying it. I really relaxed into the moment… What was the result? We covered all the aspects of what needs to be doing, quickly, happily and creatively, enjoying the conversation, enjoying the planning and feeling enthusiastic and energized about the whole project!
Want to enjoy your work more? Want to get more appreciation? Follow my advice – less stress and more enjoyment = better health, energy, creativity, results! Not only will you feel better, also your interested and cheerful attitude will be catching, so your team will be happier too…
Whatever your work is, however great the pressure, taking the time to ‘feel’ and ‘enjoy’ your actions and thoughts during the day, without doing everything by the clock, opens up a whole new world of peace and positivity.
Try it and see 🙂
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